My beautiful sister Linda called me on Friday crying her eyes out and with mixed emotions of anger and fear.
She was diagnosed with Lung Cancer (not just for smokers anymore), last year on Mothers Day weekend. She told me on the phone that she would fight it with every ounce of power that she had.
She held true to her word, she endured many chemo treatments from May until August of last year. Never once complaining of nausea, fear, the lack of hair or the question of "why me"?
The rest of the family was left asking that question, "why her"? She's a loving wife, mother and grandmother, she works for a living, doesn't purposely hurt other human beings..."why her"?
I felt totally helpless. I did as much research on the subject that a person without knowing a thing about cancer could do. I was there for her when she had doubts and questions. I told her to keep eating, fighting the good fight. She did, and very well.
She only had one more chemo treatment to go the week after her 56th birthday, so we had a surprise Birthday party for her. She had mentioned to my mother that she would love to start riding a bike again after her treatments were over. My mothers gift to her was a brand new bicycle.

She made sure she went for each and every appointment with her oncologist after the treatments were done. We all prayed every three months when she had to have numerous tests to see how she was doing. For nine months, she was free of the cancer demon, until this last test.
When she called me crying this past Friday, it was to tell me that the cancer is back, only this time in her left lung. My heart sunk to the floor, and we cried together. I'm very selfish and asked her if she would consider coming here (2-1/2 hours away from home) to have her treatments and stay with Mr. R and myself. I just want to take her in my arms and protect her from everything that I know she must endure.
Linda herself knows what battles lie ahead of her. She is the strongest, bravest and most beautiful woman I know.
All I ask from anyone is, please please lift her in your thoughts when we thank the the millions of soldiers from past, present and future, that are protecting our country, so that we may live a free life.


11 comments:
Oh Mar, I wish I were able to give you a hug in person and I wish I had the words to express the feelings I have for you and your sister. Please know I am holding the pair of you in my thoughts.
Dear Mary, I'm in tears reading about your lovely sister Linda.. I am so very sorry to hear her cancer has returned. She will be in my prayers. This has been such a sad week. I found out 2 of my dear girlfriends have breast cancer and friday my cousin passed away from breast cancer. Now reading your blog about your precious sister.. I too am filled with anger & sadness! Yes why your sister Linda? Why my friend Amy. Why my friend Sol. Why my cousin Marilyn. How my heart goes out to you and Linda. Wish I could give you both a huge hug! Here is a cyber one (((((MARY & LINDA)))) How the photo of Linda on her bike made me smile.. How sweet she looks! Take care & God bless you ~Mary~
PS I stopped by your blog to ask for your birthday to add next to your link on my blog.. I hope you do not mind.
Oh Mar .. my prayers and thoughts are with you and your sister (((HUGSSS)))
Oh Mar, your post brought many tears. I know how much Linda fought this and we were all praying for her and will continue. She sounds a lot like me, a fighter who just won't quit---mental strength is a part of medicine as far as I'm concerned and I know she has it. When I go back to my apt. I will send a card for you to send to her. Big {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}for all of you.
Oh Mar, my heart goes out to your lovely sister, and to you, I know how bravely she has battled this, and I know how hard it has been for you to see her do so, will be keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.
I don't think it's selfish of you to want her near, it's because you need to take care of her, and that's never selfish.
Big hugs to you all.
Mar, can I take your tag to my blog?
Oh Mary,
I have a sister named Linda as well and I just sobbed reading your story today! Your sister sounds like a very strong WOMEN though and I will pray for her and your family in this difficult time!
Have a wonderful Memorial Day!
I am sending well wishes, she will get better!
This is the 3rd woman I heard of who got lung cancer and never smoked!
OH, I am so sorry. Good luck to both of you.
Dear Mary,
Please know I will keep your sister in my thoughts and prayers and am so thankful to hear of her fighting spirit. Everyone says, that is half the battle.
As my dear friend said to me just 2 weeks ago....
"Better to have rough days than no days at all"
Hugs and Love to you and your sister,
Amy (Mom to the Four Sisters)
Having just lost my 53 year old father to prostate cancer, I know what it feels like to watch someone you love suffer this way. Stay strong, both of you, and know that you are in my thoughts.
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